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How to focus on your kids during a divorce

On Behalf of | Jan 2, 2024 | Family Law And Divorce

A divorce might result in the loss of your Louisiana home, a bank account or other assets. However, it doesn’t have to mean the loss of a relationship with your children. There are many steps that you are encouraged to take to make this difficult time as easy as possible on them.

Spend time with your kids

You want to make life as normal as possible during a divorce proceeding. One way to do this is to spend time with your kids like you did when things were looking better for your relationship with your spouse. Maintaining the status quo will help to center your children during an uncertain time while also helping them understand that you will always be there for them. In limited instances, it may be beneficial for both you and your spouse to participate in family events with the kids.

End the process in a timely manner

While you shouldn’t rush the process of getting a divorce, you don’t want to drag your feet either. Although there is no standard timeframe to ending your marriage, you can help the process by engaging in settlement talks in good faith. Acting in good faith might mean organizing documents promptly or making concessions when coming to a settlement.

In addition, try to come to a solution outside of court if possible. Doing so means that your kids won’t know about the terms of your agreement or be forced to watch you testify at trial. It also means that they won’t have to testify at trial, which can be extremely traumatic for small children and teenagers alike.

Your children’s needs trump your own before, during and after a divorce. Depending on the circumstances of your case, it may mean that you cede parenting time or other rights to your kids to ensure that they are happy, healthy and loved. It also means that you will likely need to retain a positive relationship with your former spouse for years to come.